tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4544323853315360062024-03-09T21:46:26.271-05:00Don Mills DivaDon Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.comBlogger449125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-50653453679017906082012-07-28T00:01:00.002-04:002012-07-28T00:01:50.681-04:00Gabriel<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
It's been the most difficult six and a half months of my life.
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Gabriel was not healthy for the first few months of his life. <br />
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There were hospital stays and ER visits and many, many doctors appointments.<br />
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But he is fine now. <br />
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He is better than fine. He is awesome, he is wonderful.<br />
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He is adored.
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</div>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-20978813629783298002011-12-11T22:01:00.001-05:002011-12-11T22:03:51.788-05:00Merry Christmas<div align="center"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjyT27PpEpNPDDnfK0WHNm6YE01FYfewOXu5PBTPwvDowzQpe_I0u4sNyHrsVnap1cEIDveA-iBDEwUaXukaomx1ZsHfEhVB2LmPj4OsbEKZWye6l9S53W5yoV3dxrqwI4wFjKRn1kEqfrv/s1600/1234567_188.JPG"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 212px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5685071904917321218" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjyT27PpEpNPDDnfK0WHNm6YE01FYfewOXu5PBTPwvDowzQpe_I0u4sNyHrsVnap1cEIDveA-iBDEwUaXukaomx1ZsHfEhVB2LmPj4OsbEKZWye6l9S53W5yoV3dxrqwI4wFjKRn1kEqfrv/s320/1234567_188.JPG" /></a> Wishing you peace, love and joy this holiday season!<br /><br /></div>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-53364271223608031122011-08-24T01:33:00.006-04:002011-08-24T01:47:54.484-04:00Hear ye, hear yeIt is ridiculously conceited of me, of course, to expect that there is anyone out there who still gives a fig what I'm up to these days.
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<br />But nonetheless I have some news that I can't resist shouting from the virtual rooftops.
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<br /><p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtiaR_cfFz_2KmRQ_EbptAvvY93-zEeON41MOUIhSjDB67yhXjzM2svU9B36HBIO1qZLGSTPXqveps_aAkGFdEg3994kL3I8q4p7LVLqMj_tcNDlrkDl9cpGPnuHSXGp4vUic4sqPyWMm-/s1600/298538_10150350180975016_676315015_10020058_4251_n.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 224px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5644292335830560802" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtiaR_cfFz_2KmRQ_EbptAvvY93-zEeON41MOUIhSjDB67yhXjzM2svU9B36HBIO1qZLGSTPXqveps_aAkGFdEg3994kL3I8q4p7LVLqMj_tcNDlrkDl9cpGPnuHSXGp4vUic4sqPyWMm-/s320/298538_10150350180975016_676315015_10020058_4251_n.jpg" /></a>
<br />After many, many years and much heartbreak and disappointment, we will be welcoming a new baby boy to our home at the end of the year. </p>
<br /><p>I couldn't be more excited.</p>
<br />Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com30tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-3272972831751564212010-07-10T01:43:00.001-04:002010-07-10T02:11:59.463-04:00Fine. Thank you for asking:)<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqRAeperoDO-h6zDkKSVRsPGsMwZENAu4A5nRnKSCLfao0ZasjiBlRQghAQqww9h4WWa94WIRi50PB96EqfPGLJRzw8a-LgyluUpTmh8LXp6X1bwUYt3pkQ8mXqbybaw290SEaLXX5JSmB/s1600/lakers+001.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 240px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492153497369379906" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqRAeperoDO-h6zDkKSVRsPGsMwZENAu4A5nRnKSCLfao0ZasjiBlRQghAQqww9h4WWa94WIRi50PB96EqfPGLJRzw8a-LgyluUpTmh8LXp6X1bwUYt3pkQ8mXqbybaw290SEaLXX5JSmB/s320/lakers+001.jpg" /></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiIS6tnf0ci6totFbsGMHSW7B60f1fTg2WwW8BZ8iFcDV8GfREzQhZORWQNzwe-75HA1PoxxxogXqdTWHl1Z-_m_dI4R2jFSh9yuLIktDV20SnW1tPnaz5f95NA6qBpyEvdp3XrusAQunP/s1600/Santa+Catalina+Island+015.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; 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MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5467652683707223122" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjU3sVEPXezgAkSW9EpVmNyqb_zyXC7YkiEDcg-7kz7tAqvHlAsRsI1Ldaun6PNdlp0OeC6Ar20x6OIJ2J2Kmu-K7c2kQMScRLlaDp6UuoIrK1MRucr4t80tMsyKg6hleQ79HJuiJre-pZr/s320/May+2010+031.jpg" /> <p align="center"></a></p><p align="center"><em>My boy races the waves at Santa Monica Pier.<br /></em><br /></p><div align="center"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2OcKEFbjeUIZxnisrf8P7gfGi89gYhyphenhyphenY6T4u9gvsax4ghAj26qCqGpBssRs-JWVN5vsQyr-tQOOg1_qIVS7ttK1zmYB0RRWJhl7TBMam49zZortH7uMt-u1Rz5wL0Gqj5bqskfkVoa5FK/s1600/May+2010+019.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5467652672911575090" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2OcKEFbjeUIZxnisrf8P7gfGi89gYhyphenhyphenY6T4u9gvsax4ghAj26qCqGpBssRs-JWVN5vsQyr-tQOOg1_qIVS7ttK1zmYB0RRWJhl7TBMam49zZortH7uMt-u1Rz5wL0Gqj5bqskfkVoa5FK/s320/May+2010+019.jpg" /></a> <em>Hauling in his catch from the pier.</em><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwq2O10tbFVfz_rS90buABr5rCNpJuHQtQN0bbfYvyEOiNFj7BhiyohNpiy3yNM2L6SzR5pqWcFhlxNJmTKhyphenhyphen5qhuvKBj7yrS4bjrkgbc5bJ7oBjKGwoxODLxKLGx4J8HqPEkn3qhr3czi/s1600/Bike!+002.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; 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MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 240px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5467654820686929602" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgCdUs6RNi98DJu3r3KDMthv3aJAlJdJ7G6bw7D1qiO2VwL52A55VVZEmGyc1OPp2XS86EIGMgR_0n23lD5R_60g9FuggRmz2n8OvDe5MmF4wHMRwqztDntYgXr15Up2TRgAYqRQ0MFWl96/s320/May+2010+035.jpg" /> </a><em>Ready for a girls night out in Hollywood with</em></div><div><em><a href="http://www.mandygratton.blogspot.com/"><span style="color:#3333ff;">last year's Blogher roomie</span></a> - all the way from Vancouver</em><br /><br /></div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSucy_LmlK9kxHI6S7SJexewDzSmro76VP9DX0CtdU0R0bp59VxXiLWBezX3tx_loWeJy6QUcKDb4YRmJHNsnevL2SWRsNYWIO_xYdn9iX4HLOa-uEDD8Ox0tE0YyRod9qQF26Kp_AMxo5/s1600/May+2010+009.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5467649595605207938" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSucy_LmlK9kxHI6S7SJexewDzSmro76VP9DX0CtdU0R0bp59VxXiLWBezX3tx_loWeJy6QUcKDb4YRmJHNsnevL2SWRsNYWIO_xYdn9iX4HLOa-uEDD8Ox0tE0YyRod9qQF26Kp_AMxo5/s320/May+2010+009.jpg" /></a><em>Cuteness in Malibu mountains</em><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZCEkbZh6YKKCC8xS-R4hQw-brdR66pqVQJpS4wVMnmAexJIOkZ6c8xHg4JMKiyZmaW0xenbte5b3Fij2nnjEYO0fCnTujJ4GdAkIDPqP4mwaqYaBJOGYRMyd3jw-tZdwAEBiS1LayBw1b/s1600/May+2010+011.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 320px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5467649583687069954" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZCEkbZh6YKKCC8xS-R4hQw-brdR66pqVQJpS4wVMnmAexJIOkZ6c8xHg4JMKiyZmaW0xenbte5b3Fij2nnjEYO0fCnTujJ4GdAkIDPqP4mwaqYaBJOGYRMyd3jw-tZdwAEBiS1LayBw1b/s320/May+2010+011.jpg" /></a> <em>Mandy in Malibu</em><br /></div>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-51913342215028724272010-03-28T16:43:00.002-04:002010-03-28T20:03:47.453-04:00Look at me Dad!<div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyf_XzFHE-nwN7MsKKjotNHpz20wT3QpCXPqVJcVlWtCDmwJz16LuGlW1FtLbYPG5fnOgkgcJ-nEhwbJX9acDiRQfMBGafRFuxS7bciq0p-8XKyl4E8Eg-b39s3Y-Vx6USt9EwcLjsWBOe/s1600/Bike!+001.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5453789107317089090" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyf_XzFHE-nwN7MsKKjotNHpz20wT3QpCXPqVJcVlWtCDmwJz16LuGlW1FtLbYPG5fnOgkgcJ-nEhwbJX9acDiRQfMBGafRFuxS7bciq0p-8XKyl4E8Eg-b39s3Y-Vx6USt9EwcLjsWBOe/s400/Bike!+001.jpg" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiKQ-PkmS9uJXlaUQTfeD-Qef3vZlBqdNIBpjXMec7cosDqMrJeTm_8A8oVbeItvpFPU4oh6yacHDg3X9nCdZ8Acb367prh8szOstTLdpV227kYZQtgYSk9l07uRxqXW0i-yoeXHBqhZm6M/s1600/Bike!+003.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 300px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 400px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5453789097790396722" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiKQ-PkmS9uJXlaUQTfeD-Qef3vZlBqdNIBpjXMec7cosDqMrJeTm_8A8oVbeItvpFPU4oh6yacHDg3X9nCdZ8Acb367prh8szOstTLdpV227kYZQtgYSk9l07uRxqXW0i-yoeXHBqhZm6M/s400/Bike!+003.jpg" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhgwgvjTLqIxCCNpvuc9wZq9NXhJaCVX_sp1rP4RlJf5IfiEP-X31X7iglYV5cc6f3T34WiCmv_8PAEJqDkQUHsA3gmsqZJywQLHjg7U4hFuo0eNbDK0a2o0PSMQvWaFl1hZ2UTUljJkPdL/s1600/Bike!+005.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5453789065677151234" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhgwgvjTLqIxCCNpvuc9wZq9NXhJaCVX_sp1rP4RlJf5IfiEP-X31X7iglYV5cc6f3T34WiCmv_8PAEJqDkQUHsA3gmsqZJywQLHjg7U4hFuo0eNbDK0a2o0PSMQvWaFl1hZ2UTUljJkPdL/s400/Bike!+005.jpg" /></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQg9vzqRIRe6lTk-UzFVRKyKMUC_xqOVzurVgBlFhw4ciNK2L1lALxG6uyT19PLRa2q7-6Ztiz7Z16_8-q4ry4ZhrStV8J_ibbkUxzHiU2NhfX7YNt3sGzAW1_FYDgokhek0KOBupVpOLO/s1600/Bike!+004.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 300px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 400px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5453789112244469410" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQg9vzqRIRe6lTk-UzFVRKyKMUC_xqOVzurVgBlFhw4ciNK2L1lALxG6uyT19PLRa2q7-6Ztiz7Z16_8-q4ry4ZhrStV8J_ibbkUxzHiU2NhfX7YNt3sGzAW1_FYDgokhek0KOBupVpOLO/s400/Bike!+004.jpg" /> </div></div></div></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQg9vzqRIRe6lTk-UzFVRKyKMUC_xqOVzurVgBlFhw4ciNK2L1lALxG6uyT19PLRa2q7-6Ztiz7Z16_8-q4ry4ZhrStV8J_ibbkUxzHiU2NhfX7YNt3sGzAW1_FYDgokhek0KOBupVpOLO/s1600/Bike!+004.jpg"></a>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-91533959362256728772010-03-26T23:36:00.004-04:002010-03-27T00:03:11.372-04:00CoolGold medals in ice hockey aside, I think my favorite Olympic moment this year was watching snowboarder Shaun White win his gold medal for the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">halfpipe</span>: dude is cool personified.<br /><br />And balmy weather and career opportunity aside, I think my favorite part of living in Los Angeles is my proximity to Target: store is style epitomized.<br /><br />So can you just imagine my joy at learning that Shaun White has a line of clothing for little boys available at Target?<br /><br />Shaun White, Target and a little boy in need of new clothes: a perfect <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">trifecta</span> of my favorite things.<br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgl_NGjiOP8niDWqsKbobyokuVUop5d8HM5ROd2Tw_NtNsfdw-j9iKnUf8A4S8UgbpY0wUrMEFTKEE365uDjOljf8noD5VX_wA_Beb7-_VdvH9b8BKFfnvZBavT8BkMNXDSL8KOtZuFiEbc/s1600/Cool.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 300px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 400px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5453154775503014162" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgl_NGjiOP8niDWqsKbobyokuVUop5d8HM5ROd2Tw_NtNsfdw-j9iKnUf8A4S8UgbpY0wUrMEFTKEE365uDjOljf8noD5VX_wA_Beb7-_VdvH9b8BKFfnvZBavT8BkMNXDSL8KOtZuFiEbc/s400/Cool.jpg" /></a> <div align="center"><em><span style="font-size:85%;">You can't handle the cool.</span></em></div>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-40633675114746391542010-03-15T00:18:00.006-04:002010-03-15T00:48:12.782-04:00Hello from La-La LandRob headed back to Toronto two weeks ago for work but Grandma has been here in his stead and we've been showing her around.<br /><br />La Jolla Cove...<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifVSpunCjZwvvBOz8krk-TYR7oVj15W9jmp_85O1o_bG35zqebJGtCfA25V2x3KQVOyj4A3gwSC7_wQddgifxhK8gAQE5Yox7Bp06s7fmx9sVxDXqKU7xK-I7HFKJxc_Yi0JsfhE7sRslA/s1600-h/Crazy+hair+day+036.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5448711860705248754" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEifVSpunCjZwvvBOz8krk-TYR7oVj15W9jmp_85O1o_bG35zqebJGtCfA25V2x3KQVOyj4A3gwSC7_wQddgifxhK8gAQE5Yox7Bp06s7fmx9sVxDXqKU7xK-I7HFKJxc_Yi0JsfhE7sRslA/s400/Crazy+hair+day+036.jpg" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7dNprcTJFLdB8nu8sp4zf3-k09lnX0NSs8Zn6gG7mmjWi23ioLRhZpLka-OqfXKSAiLolO3rIOQXy49R4zVxqe7SnvLK20fFOq33gaCim5FevwDx_XUksdZEKz0h_xGrl1FiV-749WScE/s1600-h/Crazy+hair+day+045.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5448711853119439538" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7dNprcTJFLdB8nu8sp4zf3-k09lnX0NSs8Zn6gG7mmjWi23ioLRhZpLka-OqfXKSAiLolO3rIOQXy49R4zVxqe7SnvLK20fFOq33gaCim5FevwDx_XUksdZEKz0h_xGrl1FiV-749WScE/s400/Crazy+hair+day+045.jpg" /></a><br />Venice (yes, Graham's obsession with balloons now officially spans the continent)...<br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBDyLdFqMX1L4Iw3lTsqitzIS2dlyxQntNiYiNawgfTcPuEUgmjZZEogPegXr8D4zlM_8XMeIeamdHMmp9puWhAob45DhCokCvKMctivCFrgKeR32kqSd4FS07HXASWVLLN-7R_ybK5fU3/s1600-h/Crazy+hair+day+028.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 300px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 400px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5448711832605794498" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjBDyLdFqMX1L4Iw3lTsqitzIS2dlyxQntNiYiNawgfTcPuEUgmjZZEogPegXr8D4zlM_8XMeIeamdHMmp9puWhAob45DhCokCvKMctivCFrgKeR32kqSd4FS07HXASWVLLN-7R_ybK5fU3/s400/Crazy+hair+day+028.jpg" /></a><br />And La Jolla Cave (conveniently located at La Jolla Cove)<br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhh6VMScBbKEGC8QJdyebOny3ShFdzfe-LGPnldG-h61XOHB28dBJaoH8g6g3opfUYPXEE637HKKmeIBFeC1fvr-KEMN7KqPWhKseYHDpHdrkrChEsUhsuam8Nk5ilwO2q5nQkdMqJLaHUJ/s1600-h/Crazy+hair+day+042.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 300px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 400px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5448711825607926386" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhh6VMScBbKEGC8QJdyebOny3ShFdzfe-LGPnldG-h61XOHB28dBJaoH8g6g3opfUYPXEE637HKKmeIBFeC1fvr-KEMN7KqPWhKseYHDpHdrkrChEsUhsuam8Nk5ilwO2q5nQkdMqJLaHUJ/s400/Crazy+hair+day+042.jpg" /></a><br />And also, the very day after that last picture was taken?<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjqUzxFpgG-13HEcyQoHM6qNBrZ9zFqYcu1cZcsGkYHnuQCvtcfcILlkEFDZWTbqxTguA5wriOqAxE86Xx28WfLuXDu1T5oVsrfjd0Lq10nFk5MjgRdV6GM5Ut2kG6azme_KnKlJ5XqeuC7/s1600-h/new+haircut.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5448716916159714978" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjqUzxFpgG-13HEcyQoHM6qNBrZ9zFqYcu1cZcsGkYHnuQCvtcfcILlkEFDZWTbqxTguA5wriOqAxE86Xx28WfLuXDu1T5oVsrfjd0Lq10nFk5MjgRdV6GM5Ut2kG6azme_KnKlJ5XqeuC7/s400/new+haircut.jpg" /></a><br />My baby got a haircut and a great big boy miraculously appeared in <i>his </i>stead. </div></div></div>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com17tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-13420955190515094562010-02-04T15:09:00.003-05:002010-02-04T15:16:12.717-05:00CrazyDid I mention Graham loves his preschool here in Los Angeles?<br /><br />Well he does.<br /><br />He loves it. LOVES it.<br /><br />I think the fact that it indulges in "Crazy Hair Day" may be part of the reason.<br /><br />Also? Apparently most preschool moms consider a colorful barrette or a silly ponytail to be a suitable celebration of said Crazy Hair Day.<br /><br />Graham and I, we do not.<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGFXVuuXxPlk53mxjtnUKMM1FLzHQGaHQaSCseMnjZRqlIWO8YU1VtqXyNBSQegOBqTmFeHK64bDKOVu4KsQ4vZLJPcLCX7HsUbQstJNfvVJI3KTL89I2DlyIkPO6BEz3jAdc6_CbroxDk/s1600-h/Crazy+hair+day+004.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 300px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 400px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5434483512483565554" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiGFXVuuXxPlk53mxjtnUKMM1FLzHQGaHQaSCseMnjZRqlIWO8YU1VtqXyNBSQegOBqTmFeHK64bDKOVu4KsQ4vZLJPcLCX7HsUbQstJNfvVJI3KTL89I2DlyIkPO6BEz3jAdc6_CbroxDk/s400/Crazy+hair+day+004.jpg" /></a>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com23tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-11191913668497672752010-01-25T22:37:00.007-05:002010-01-25T23:18:14.292-05:00Well hello thereWe are fine.<br /><br />We are more than fine; we are happy.<br /><br />That's not to say all of the changes we have gone through the last few months haven't been difficult and scary and enormously stressful.<br /><br /><br /><p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9l4ZCWz4-ldYhe2byvuAy14DXpVOjVnQg2xLhuC_flQ9UBwlsi_9Dq9Heewmx4O6b7UN_yr4UDcpGm70vIeln6S737gOz9f5_ZCZQ7ZG-9g2PhsktoXqc3aXSB5_LQ3kPVZ5VGzCMvuBb/s1600-h/California+December+4-5+09+027.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5430888911759832530" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9l4ZCWz4-ldYhe2byvuAy14DXpVOjVnQg2xLhuC_flQ9UBwlsi_9Dq9Heewmx4O6b7UN_yr4UDcpGm70vIeln6S737gOz9f5_ZCZQ7ZG-9g2PhsktoXqc3aXSB5_LQ3kPVZ5VGzCMvuBb/s400/California+December+4-5+09+027.jpg" /></a></p><br /><p>They have been all of those things. But, for the most part, it's all good.</p><p>I had forgotten how beautiful it is in Los Angeles. </p><p>I had forgotten that on previous visits I had felt such love and affinity for her wild canyons and roaring surf and towering palms.<br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUhyphenhyphenReew0Y4knLwcF9ANXun_TNTIMXeAkhPuc6qb_ieMq6K_LOxy6Fy2vQhF59_otGtqUxfltuA3iHt3ndgtLIJ0ZlMOZ4BDT3WtUnwSIogYmOMb52A-3hfhVAdg4Jm8GADBMFrE1e47-6/s1600-h/California+December+4-5+09+029.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5430890189590408498" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUhyphenhyphenReew0Y4knLwcF9ANXun_TNTIMXeAkhPuc6qb_ieMq6K_LOxy6Fy2vQhF59_otGtqUxfltuA3iHt3ndgtLIJ0ZlMOZ4BDT3WtUnwSIogYmOMb52A-3hfhVAdg4Jm8GADBMFrE1e47-6/s400/California+December+4-5+09+029.jpg" /></a><br />I had forgotten, also, how very alive a career challenge can make me feel and how exploring a new city has always sent a thrill through my bones.<br /><br />I still haven't quite figured out what I will do with this blog. I do know I will not, cannot, maintain it as a forum for discussion and rumination as I have in the past, but I am reluctant to sever a means for far-flung relatives (who haven't mastered Facebook) to keep in touch.<br /><br />I have been humbled by your lovely words and well wishes over the last few months. Thanks again and please know that we are fine.</p><p>We are more than fine; we are happy.<br /><br /></p><p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaUWA-X6rAkJvhHw59C2Bhnicvo_s5O9WBWnDWEje0zRPFNEh1KUMZpnwnzOk47V9bPhsF56GS-1wvV7emjvkmskaPa-hvtUJwHHDjTaGP8UlYkkm36zJEB9BoZSzOq9c-Z9rIyo-ZWxdK/s1600-h/California+December+4-5+09+028.jpg"><img style="TEXT-ALIGN: center; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; DISPLAY: block; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5430888496595651682" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaUWA-X6rAkJvhHw59C2Bhnicvo_s5O9WBWnDWEje0zRPFNEh1KUMZpnwnzOk47V9bPhsF56GS-1wvV7emjvkmskaPa-hvtUJwHHDjTaGP8UlYkkm36zJEB9BoZSzOq9c-Z9rIyo-ZWxdK/s400/California+December+4-5+09+028.jpg" /></a> </p>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com40tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-55554245566452083272009-10-21T21:33:00.003-04:002009-10-23T16:42:17.248-04:00Following my sun: the one where I say goodbyeI know my recent absence from this space has been abrupt in light of the considerable effort I have spent the last two years <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">convincing</span> readers to invest in my life.<br /><br />I know that radio silence <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">for</span> a month is <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">perhaps</span> even <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">disrespectful</span>, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">given</span> <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">the </span>fact that I have often drank deeply, nay greedily, from your virtually never-ending well of support and goodwill.<br /><br />But I hope you will <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">forgive</span> me when I explain that since I have last written, everything I used to <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_7" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">assume</span> about the way my life would play out has changed.<br /><br />At the beginning of the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_8" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">summer</span> I applied for what I can only describe as my dream job: a job that would catapult me several steps up a career ladder on which I already occupied a comfortable middle position. It is a job that represents an enormous challenge, a job that would move me into the inner circles of the film and television industry and allow me to advocate for the people and places I hold dearest in my heart.<br /><br />I am not normally a humble sort, but suffice to say I firmly believed that my application was a long shot<br /><br />But I got the job.<br /><br />I got the job and in just a few days I will fly to Los Angeles, California on a nine-day business trip during which I will find a place for my family to live.<br /><br />In mid November I will leave Don Mills and Canada and my life here behind to chase my dreams and <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_9" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">ambitions</span> in a place where <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_10" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">success</span> in my chosen industry <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_11" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">represents</span> the very pinnacle of success.<br /><br />I have been offered what I believe is the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_12" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">opportunity</span> of a lifetime folks and I'm going for it.<br /><br />It will not be easy. It has not been easy. In the month since I accepted the offer I have <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_13" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">plummeted</span> down the rabbit hole into a vortex of details and lawyers and contracts and home listings and visas and export papers and anxiety and studying and disbelief and <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_14" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">sleepless</span> nights and joy and uncertainty and heartfelt late night talks.<br /><br />I will pull up stakes and move south towards the end of November. Rob and Graham will await my return about a month later and after Christmas together we will return to Los Angeles as a family to build our lives anew in a sunny place, far removed we hope from the uncertainty and darkness of the past year.<br /><br />It was on last New Year's Eve that we <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">learned</span> that cancer cells had been found in Rob's mother's stomach lining. That very day she was released from the hospital to our home where at midnight <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2009/01/hope.html"><span style="color:#000099;">we raised a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">hopeful</span>, if t<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">entative </span>glass to the possibilities that 2009 would bring</span></a>.<br /><br />We did not know then that we would mourn her death just 11 weeks later: we have learned since that, more often than not, both life and happiness are hard fought.<br /><br />And so we are fighting. And we are moving. And I am moving on from this space which I believe is <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">incompatible</span> with my new job, at least in its present incarnation.<br /><br />In just a few weeks I will be taking Don Mills Diva private and providing a password for friends and family who may be interested in photos and basic updates on how we're doing.<br /><br />If you'd like to keep in touch feel free to request the password via e-mail and if you live in the Los Angeles area especially please touch base.<br /><br />I will miss Don Mills Diva and I will miss all of you. It is thanks in no small part to my readers, supporters and even dissenters, that I was successful in obtaining this job. Even more than the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">guerrilla</span> social media and <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">Internet</span> marketing skills I learned from the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-error">blogosphere</span>, I learned confidence in the expression of my ideas and confidence in the importance of what I could contribute.<br /><br />If there is one regret that I have with regards to my <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_7" class="blsp-spelling-error">withdrawal</span> from the blogging community it is the vague sense that I took so much more from it than I was able to give. During some of the darkest days of my life you gave me a renewed conviction in my personal power and there is no way I will ever be able to repay that.<br /><br />Thank you each and every one for lifting me up and helping me soar.<br /><br />Good bye and God bless you.Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com88tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-58584403024750813302009-09-23T08:00:00.002-04:002009-09-23T09:20:54.647-04:00Ch-ch-ch-changesThere are some life-changing events afoot here at <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Casa</span> DMD: I hope to be able to tell you what's happening in the next few days.<br /><br />Thanks for your patience.Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com25tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-53291037187756428272009-09-16T18:19:00.010-04:002009-09-16T23:04:12.111-04:00SchooledThe call from Graham's school came on Monday, barely an hour after I had settled into a busy day at work.<br /><p><em>"We have Graham here in the office,"</em> said the voice at the other end of the phone. <em>"He's not feeling very well and I think you'll have to come and get him."</em></p><p><em>"What?! Is he okay?"</em></p><p><em>"I don't think it's serious,"</em> was the reply. <em>"Here, I'll let you talk to him."</em></p><p>There was a shuffling noise and then, Graham's voice, so thin and tiny that I instantly felt my chest ache as my heart swelled and pushed against it.</p><p><em>"I <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">throwed</span> up in the trash can Mommy. Are you going to come and get me?"</em></p><p>I went and got him.</p><p>I took him home and tried to <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">catch</span> up on work e-mails while he lolled on the couch and watched cartoons. I fed him chicken noodle soup and buttered sourdough toast and anxiously inquired about his well-being. </p><p>He <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">appeared</span> to be perfectly fine.</p><p>He appeared better then fine, actually: he appeared buoyant <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">and</span>, in retrospect, perhaps just a little relieved. That evening I even took him to the park and let him run off an obvious surfeit of energy. </p><p>Yesterday morning I walked him into his classroom where we were greeted by his teacher.</p><p><em>"Graham seemed fine at home yesterday,"</em> I told her.<br /><br /><em>"Well I think it was probably just nerves, but he looks way better today than he has since he started,"</em> she said. <em>"I mean, he's just seemed so anxious."</em></p><p>He has?</p><p>Oh.</p><p>I decided not to make a big deal of it: when I spoke to Graham after school yesterday he was happy as a clam and assured me he had a <em>"great"</em> day. I decided not to say anything about it at all.</p><p>And then this morning, as I buckled him into his car seat, a look of pure panic flashed across his dear, wee face.</p><p><em>"I'm gonna be sick Mommy, I'm gonna be sick,"</em> he wailed. <em>"I need a sick bowl."</em></p><p>I handed him the car's waste paper basket and stood there for quite a while, rubbing his back and trying to reassure him. </p><p><em>"It's okay. It's normal. Everybody feels a little nervous sometimes. Even Mommy when she goes to work. All the other kids at school probably feel a little nervous too".</em></p><p>After a few <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">minutes</span> he seemed okay and off we went.</p><p>I walked him into his classroom again where the <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">morning</span> story was already in progress and apologized for our lateness.</p><p><em>"Graham had a little attack of nerves,"</em> I whispered to the teacher, as discreetly as possible.</p><p>She smiled kindly.</p><p><em>"Yes, that happened yesterday as well."</em></p><p>It did?</p><p>Oh.</p><p>And so it seems that perhaps my darling boy is not quite as confident as he seems or as <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2009/09/brave-new-world.html"><span style="color:#000099;">I so proudly asserted</span></a> he was following his first day of school last week.</p><p>And so it seems that I must come to grips with the painful realization that the child I thought I knew better than my own heart has anxieties and fears that, for whatever reason, he feels he must keep hidden from me.</p><p>The heart, it breaks.</p>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com46tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-27244805602600879712009-09-11T22:45:00.000-04:002009-09-11T22:45:00.280-04:00Forty<p>By all accounts today is significant, but it is especially so for me.</p><p>Today is my 40<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">th</span> birthday.</p><p>I celebrated with my family already last weekend and I enjoyed tons of well wishes and cake at work today, but despite all the exhortations from female friends who've already hit this milestone, I don't feel liberated. I have instead been unable to shake the melancholy that has plagued me since waking: it is nearly bedtime and I still feel unsettled. </p><p>I am happy enough, but not knowing if my family is complete leaves me unable to exhale and ill-equipped to make grand declarations about what the next year or the next decade will bring. </p><p>I cannot help remembering that <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2008/09/living-dream.html" target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">last year I was so rushed on my birthday that I <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">completely</span> forget it until my sweet mother-in-law forced me to slow down for a birthday kiss</span></a>: little did I know it would be the last one I would ever receive from her.</p><p>So what if I never expected my life would look like this at 40 - that's hardly surprising is it?</p><p>Just last weekend, between bites of an early birthday cake, my father quoted me an old saying that has rung in my ears all day today: <em>"The secret to being happy in life is not getting what you want, but being happy with what you get."</em></p><p>And in the absence of grand <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">declarations</span>, that, I think, will be my mantra for the coming year and hopefully for all those that follow it.</p>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com41tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-31510830899675014052009-09-10T21:39:00.003-04:002009-09-10T21:49:28.280-04:00Brave new worldAs much as I deep down might entertain the notion that I am somehow different and perhaps even a little special, I was today humbled to learn that I am but a walking cliche.<br /><br />That is to say, oh yeah, I cried.<br /><p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGCotJaTTPzvcKBWDTuWKavyBzB4lN96gor9WsRkFyC5I9dfOn1wVoRtdveGtkly2X3SvR8ucV-ajrW4zF8YuRl9_bpD1atKV1b6mu-u5scmTlEbuSIDiPDvzz5m_cx4QRZgqgQU2LwldM/s1600-h/sch3.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5380009728463222562" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 266px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhGCotJaTTPzvcKBWDTuWKavyBzB4lN96gor9WsRkFyC5I9dfOn1wVoRtdveGtkly2X3SvR8ucV-ajrW4zF8YuRl9_bpD1atKV1b6mu-u5scmTlEbuSIDiPDvzz5m_cx4QRZgqgQU2LwldM/s400/sch3.jpg" border="0" /></a><br />Graham didn't, but I did. </p><p>He was a little nervous, but not overly so. He needed only some gentle reassurance and a great big hug before confidently taking his teacher's hand and allowing himself to be lead right out of his babyhood without so much as a backwards glance.<br /></p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEigSy0Q_UA8FODJS0K33qn01CjQe3HX9bGWsSS5p0HqPD1YKqxjrMiAvBl1NKq91U6mkuspTlv2w5bvIhP0LHghncxC2xS-htKc-etq_9KOrKP8p5AePMAkTI4zF8c7UMgzy9Tfy7oBTDQx/s1600-h/sch2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5380009717766026850" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 267px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEigSy0Q_UA8FODJS0K33qn01CjQe3HX9bGWsSS5p0HqPD1YKqxjrMiAvBl1NKq91U6mkuspTlv2w5bvIhP0LHghncxC2xS-htKc-etq_9KOrKP8p5AePMAkTI4zF8c7UMgzy9Tfy7oBTDQx/s400/sch2.jpg" border="0" /></a><br />And I lingered, at the classroom door's edge, uncertain and teary, straining to keep him in my line of sight as he settled into a circle of his peers at the front of the room. The teacher nodded, a kindly cue for me to take my leave and even as I cursed myself for being <em>that</em> mom, the tears started to spill.<br /><br />There's a reason why cliches become cliches and it was more emotional than I ever imagined it would be to know, at that moment, that the person I would die to protect was beginning his journey into a world where the sum total of the affections of a hundred friendly faces he encounters won't equal a millionth of the passion his mother has for his well-being.<br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsl2VzOYM3IsEFE9g5gAJ9trrI7hxZQje8y_slblsmIEANaFH0oa3N3hHxiWJUHbChneAt8Xp95JXOjgR1okFW0rNGemFBvwQwEhuRreAL8cZHC2Kf43CDMpuAHoIUCICmhGczzz3S3sAR/s1600-h/sch1.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5380009710717417666" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 267px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgsl2VzOYM3IsEFE9g5gAJ9trrI7hxZQje8y_slblsmIEANaFH0oa3N3hHxiWJUHbChneAt8Xp95JXOjgR1okFW0rNGemFBvwQwEhuRreAL8cZHC2Kf43CDMpuAHoIUCICmhGczzz3S3sAR/s400/sch1.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div>So I cried, just a little, and I wished with all my heart that his Oma could have seen him today, so handsome, so grown up and so confident.<br /><br />So yeah, I am a walking cliche and I cried, because even though Graham returned home today, looking exactly the same as he did this morning, I already miss the boy he was when he left.Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com25tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-20795564517403453582009-09-08T21:34:00.007-04:002009-09-10T09:53:57.510-04:00How can you tell if your kid's a spoiled brat?There are two ways of looking at the photos below: a selection of shots I took yesterday at the closing day of the Canadian National Exhibition (CNE) in downtown Toronto.<br /><br />If you just glance at the photos you will likely take in a scene that looks very similar to scenes I often present here, in pictures and in words: scenes of a carefree and charmed childhood enjoyed by a boy with two parents who, whatever their struggles, endeavor to create happy memories that will one day act as a bulwark against the complications and difficulties that adulthood inevitably brings.<br /><br />Looks like a great day, right?<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-l89fh0-OQ0DTalpNZQoBBkZeOyrrh9uL6Swc8fZ13BtMq5Eu_dDp0-7JmSUCX6uG1ntwX6HuNRbMDIrh2i3vGiIcqEA9F0dtXLLK_KKs0gUV3yEoVNIVFPEtlJKjuAb0XfgzUp-8ko8u/s1600-h/CNE1.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5378920498867028898" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 266px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-l89fh0-OQ0DTalpNZQoBBkZeOyrrh9uL6Swc8fZ13BtMq5Eu_dDp0-7JmSUCX6uG1ntwX6HuNRbMDIrh2i3vGiIcqEA9F0dtXLLK_KKs0gUV3yEoVNIVFPEtlJKjuAb0XfgzUp-8ko8u/s400/CNE1.jpg" border="0" /></a><br />Wrong.<br /><br />Yesterday was a terrible day.<br /><br />Yesterday was a terrible day not because the CNE was hot and crowded and ludicrously expensive, though it was all of those things, but because it caused both Rob and I (though really mostly me) to question whether all the effort we put into creating memories with Graham is actually having the desired effect.<br /><br />Let me be blunt: Graham wasn't just poorly behaved yesterday, he was insolent and just plain bratty.<br /><br />Look a little closer at the photos.<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnQlISqMwbnOyoRYQWdv59U6gbSRKBqvjvI-GCnLgYspwvz25wl0cdxLOs4NDWJ48-eY97jljipgYOQzCEh2l7jr0olm5EsvIG_tVSVCRFwtk87g94XDpnyzNo_ka_S1jv_juwSHibBN_n/s1600-h/CNE3.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5378921454617299522" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 266px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjnQlISqMwbnOyoRYQWdv59U6gbSRKBqvjvI-GCnLgYspwvz25wl0cdxLOs4NDWJ48-eY97jljipgYOQzCEh2l7jr0olm5EsvIG_tVSVCRFwtk87g94XDpnyzNo_ka_S1jv_juwSHibBN_n/s400/CNE3.jpg" border="0" /></a><br />Can you see the frustration and the exhaustion on our faces now?<br /><br />We <em>were</em> exhausted - by almost constant, enduring temper tantrums that erupted over the most insignificant things the instant Graham's gratification was denied or delayed. We all know that keeping a three-and-a-half-year-old in line anywhere there are crowds and candy and rides and noise is bound to involve some major headaches, but <em>normally</em> the fleeting moments of joy and fun make it all worthwhile in the end.<br /><br />Not yesterday.<br /><br />I have never spent so much time correcting behaviour: talking, discussing, sternly warning and yes, yelling. I have never felt tears of frustration sting my eyes so many times in such a short time frame. The pain involved in yesterday's outing so far outweighed the pleasure that even a full 24 hours later, I still wish I had not bothered to go at all.<br /><br />I still feel unsettled.<br /><br /><p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHxUDIZl_aS1WBpU2DuxlbqsDDCN_MRLjmgMAbbUDFP3eu0xjBA9N7ZCU4obdroc93wHXN8FkfkxW0Ad0mwuumEgRht00DBoSMTTPW0UCnL4vrnOjme3adrLgFUvjDNmbN7KlgQV4eGen4/s1600-h/CNE4.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5378921464275146514" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 267px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHxUDIZl_aS1WBpU2DuxlbqsDDCN_MRLjmgMAbbUDFP3eu0xjBA9N7ZCU4obdroc93wHXN8FkfkxW0Ad0mwuumEgRht00DBoSMTTPW0UCnL4vrnOjme3adrLgFUvjDNmbN7KlgQV4eGen4/s400/CNE4.jpg" border="0" /></a> </p><p><br />Graham's Labour Day weekend was a whirlwind. He celebrated his uncle's birthday with a big family dinner that went late on Thursday. On Friday we headed for the lake and spent Saturday and Sunday at Grandpa and Grandma's where Graham collected clams and played in the water with his cousins. He had a campfire and a sing-a-long and boat rides and barbecues. We came back to the city Sunday night for the express purpose of taking him to the CNE on Monday, our seventh wedding anniversary.</p><p>Was Graham overstimulated?</p><p>Maybe. Rob thinks so. He also thinks he was way overtired (true) and nervous about his first day of school on Thursday (possibly). He doesn't really think that Graham's behaviour, however awful, is completely out of the norm or that it indicates a problem with discipline or entitlement. He thinks I was right to be so hard on him, but that I should stop being so hard on myself.</p><p>But I'm not so sure.</p><p>Because I can't shake this nagging fear that my well-meaning attempts to make my son's childhood special have unwittingly contributed to the creation of a spoiled, entitled little monster.<br /></p><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglE6ID12C2_HlHe0tfo7sX0mgkqIYeE0dtxy33UUWZQ37wrxnW3aUTwnm-Ts54G_rsMZFRoyTScEC1IpLJ0LoLqAVQTz7XTnLjFI7hpjAGbN_YKPwu_uTZ1-FZAyMd5jEVqvoCoYBPIktg/s1600-h/CNE2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5378920509659351746" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 300px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglE6ID12C2_HlHe0tfo7sX0mgkqIYeE0dtxy33UUWZQ37wrxnW3aUTwnm-Ts54G_rsMZFRoyTScEC1IpLJ0LoLqAVQTz7XTnLjFI7hpjAGbN_YKPwu_uTZ1-FZAyMd5jEVqvoCoYBPIktg/s400/CNE2.jpg" border="0" /></a>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com45tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-38441373432219525712009-09-01T18:40:00.002-04:002009-09-01T19:57:12.035-04:00First loveMany, many moons ago, before Graham developed <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2009/08/sweet-carolina.html"><span style="color:#000099;">his fixation on a certain <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">comely</span> neighborhood girl</span></a>, he had <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2007/11/letter-for-betterment-of-supermarkets.html"><span style="color:#000099;">another obsession.</span></a><br /><br />And this obsession. I think, may well outlast his affection for any girl he has met or has yet to meet. This obsession, after all, has persevered since the very beginning of his short life; from the very first time he started to become capable of making his wants and desires known.<br /><br /><a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2007/11/letter-for-betterment-of-supermarkets.html"><span style="color:#000099;">Graham is a balloon-a-<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">holic</span>.</span> </a><br /><br />He has been since birth and still is, as evidenced by the picture below taken at the birthday party for the daughter of <a href="http://michellesamom.blogspot.com/"><span style="color:#000099;">a dear <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">bloggy</span> friend</span></a> last weekend.<br /><br />Yes, during a birthday party featuring wonderful food, tons of kids and a magic show with doves, a rabbit <em>and </em>an iguana, my boy spent most the time fixated on his first, true love.<br /><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQF9uWBVmaBwUs98gywSR7bJ5q5-ssaXzcFM5HlWFDtLVFoCNBlJZQq9IecfOLVYGSnn_Mll7ULyO3hWJ4FDYWVMI1q-Zm0pDnzHjd3RTpemUCuxKjFvFZBB-MET9mRIYiQ4G-dKSX3vYQ/s1600-h/b.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5376323573435255394" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 266px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhQF9uWBVmaBwUs98gywSR7bJ5q5-ssaXzcFM5HlWFDtLVFoCNBlJZQq9IecfOLVYGSnn_Mll7ULyO3hWJ4FDYWVMI1q-Zm0pDnzHjd3RTpemUCuxKjFvFZBB-MET9mRIYiQ4G-dKSX3vYQ/s400/b.jpg" border="0" /></a><br />Sigh.<br /><br />Oh well, odds are balloons will never throw him over for the captain of the football team, right?Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-35135357660820693922009-08-28T07:44:00.008-04:002009-08-28T15:54:04.641-04:00Damn: the potty training editionDAMN!<br /><br />It's days like today that I dearly wish I had not committed myself to refraining from the use of stronger profanity on this site (and in real life, though in real life I almost never quite manage to refrain from it).<br /><br />But anyway...DAMN!<br /><br />Just damn.<br /><br />I've been trying to potty train Graham for almost a full year now. <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2009/01/fail.html" target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">I beat myself up over my failure to do so way last January</span></a>. Then I decided to just let it happen on its own. <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2009/05/wits-end.html" target="_blank" ><span style="color:#000099;">Then I tried to put my foot down again in May</span></a><span style="color:#000099;">.</span> That was a disaster that upset me more than I thought it possible to be upset over something like potty training. <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2009/05/in-good-time.html" target="_blank" ><span style="color:#000099;">Then I resolved to just let it happen in its own time.</span> </a>And now?<br /><br />We're back at square one.<br /><br />Well, not square one. Let's just say square one as far as number two is concerned: as in, he won't, absolutely won't, poop in the potty.<br /><br />It's been three days since he's gone at all. I know this can't go on. I know he WILL go eventually. But here's what you don't know...<br /><br />The last time we got to this stage, he did go eventually. In his sleep. In his bed. And guess what? The humiliation, the discomfort, the sheer GROSSNESS of that experience was NOT enough to convince him that perhaps the potty was a better alternative.<br /><br />Nope.<br /><br />What happened was he seemed quite comfortable to get settled into a routine of just holding it all day, soiling his bed in the night and going happily about his normal routine in the morning.<br /><br />So now he's not gone for three days and he's refusing to go on the potty. I know eventually he will go. And if I continue to refuse a pull up, I suspect he will go in his bedsheets tonight just like last time.<br /><br />In fact, I suspect he will continue to soil his bed on a nightly basis as long as I refuse him a pull-up.<br /><br />Graham has told me outright, over and over, that he will NOT poop on the potty.<br /><br />Graham will be FOUR in November.<br /><br />Graham is not frightened of the potty and no longer has any hang-ups about the potty: he is stubborn, plain and simple.<br /><br />I have pleaded. I have cajoled. I have firmly instructed. I have shouted. I have talked softly. I have sobbed. I have tried rewards. I have tried letting him take the lead. I have tried making him stay bare. I have tried withholding privileges. I have tried EVERY single piece of advice I have been given.<br /><br />I feel like a complete and abject failure<br /><br />I never, ever thought that I would find myself in a power struggled of such epic proportion but now that I have, I feel that it's a power struggle from which I must, as the PARENT, emerge victorious. After all, what kind of message does it send to him if I don't follow through? If I repeatedly threaten consequences - no <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">tv</span></span>, no school, no birthday party tomorrow that's he' s been looking forward to all week - only to turn around and give in?<br /><br />And yet, deep down, I don't believe, even for a second, that my following through on these consequences - and a million more I tearfully threw at him in the throes of <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">frustration</span> last night, consequences that will make us ALL miserable - will change his mind.<br /><br />DAMN.<br /><br /><center>******************************************* </center><br />I almost forgot to say thanks for all the tips on locating the Curious George Balloon - thanks to <a href="http://cherylschat.blogspot.com/" target="_blank" ><span style="color:#000099;">Cheryl</span></a> and <a href="http://christophersheart.blogspot.com/" target="_blank" ><span style="color:#000099;">Wendy</span></a> I believe one was found in the shop at <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Sick</span> Kids <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">Hospital</span>. Also, many thanks for suggesting we visit our old house to look for our missing kitty. We did just that AND put our former neighbors on lookout duty: I'll let you know if our dear Eddie turns up.Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com36tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-6070597887963855622009-08-26T21:52:00.008-04:002009-08-26T22:08:35.224-04:00The showmanHonestly!<br /><br /><div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUVZuFePqbfVzYFPqpUH2yB7My1UvPc7aDgHvNXA9cNVawcEbA9v7QaDGyqmvF_TukJ9URTVCZFSALZsFJKeI0FsDEiz_bGFFAFjJ5GhGYkWpytBPfeoiHMZQvM4Iw_6Gw4URsgjfGbOSJ/s1600-h/j2.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5374448674240044850" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 267px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUVZuFePqbfVzYFPqpUH2yB7My1UvPc7aDgHvNXA9cNVawcEbA9v7QaDGyqmvF_TukJ9URTVCZFSALZsFJKeI0FsDEiz_bGFFAFjJ5GhGYkWpytBPfeoiHMZQvM4Iw_6Gw4URsgjfGbOSJ/s400/j2.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div>Are there no lengths to which...</div><br /><div><br /></div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilSMN_gBKZuVgSdiFfv9SjeOcwodMbYKdCJmrUMOd6nFJgwjQMlbDB9xzWbcm1FxG5DtA98vcIrrXrLasFkLCyHOOolYZ-jKbkvopvgrCmWWC-Ae6MdP0imtf_r-O7kFMhSXUEoxjImdOH/s1600-h/j4.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5374450441593589970" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 267px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEilSMN_gBKZuVgSdiFfv9SjeOcwodMbYKdCJmrUMOd6nFJgwjQMlbDB9xzWbcm1FxG5DtA98vcIrrXrLasFkLCyHOOolYZ-jKbkvopvgrCmWWC-Ae6MdP0imtf_r-O7kFMhSXUEoxjImdOH/s400/j4.jpg" border="0" /></a> </div><br /><div>...a guy won't go...<br /><br /></div><div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3pVHVEmMfwijrX-LJTGoXLpbrsfWyyhU_qryxYhWZe_nErFFkdZWHGIOyMtZ6s4goTHl2BwiWMyT-AxdnPTXc77O0KJ2NIlhY4SL_fvlqiH_rmNl1DYriAJzwj47HD0oXYjHlHmz2wDqB/s1600-h/j5.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5374450449809773698" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 266px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3pVHVEmMfwijrX-LJTGoXLpbrsfWyyhU_qryxYhWZe_nErFFkdZWHGIOyMtZ6s4goTHl2BwiWMyT-AxdnPTXc77O0KJ2NIlhY4SL_fvlqiH_rmNl1DYriAJzwj47HD0oXYjHlHmz2wDqB/s400/j5.jpg" border="0" /></a> </div><br /><div>...to impress a girl?</div><div><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3zNZc89GYy6ekIZBRvnHvbuSX5hPDih89_LEviOkMQ0n8W1GzAhSEnfw0iIZ9h8no_m1Xuha1dhsOxD-AJ2jcXI5qL-J9U2dHJRkjPNzXqqXSYsMLTvBcePbAf-9sSkHyFDWRvB26rOnc/s1600-h/j6.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5374450457124617890" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 267px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh3zNZc89GYy6ekIZBRvnHvbuSX5hPDih89_LEviOkMQ0n8W1GzAhSEnfw0iIZ9h8no_m1Xuha1dhsOxD-AJ2jcXI5qL-J9U2dHJRkjPNzXqqXSYsMLTvBcePbAf-9sSkHyFDWRvB26rOnc/s400/j6.jpg" border="0" /></a> </div><br /><div>Just out of the frame of these pictures was <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2009/08/sweet-carolina.html"><span style="color:#000099;">the object of Graham's latest obsession</span></a>. Earlier this evening he <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">climbed</span> to the top of this play structure and jumped off about...umm...76 times in a desperate bid to get her to pay attention to him.</div><div></div><br /><div>Unfortunately for him, it didn't appear to work: she apparently doesn't notice or <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">appreciate</span> great bravery and superhuman <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">athletic</span> prowess in men.</div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></br>Clearly, it's her loss.</div></div></div></div>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com16tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-72261236652395991192009-08-24T07:59:00.006-04:002009-08-25T10:19:31.936-04:00On preferring sticks and stonesThree weeks later, her words are still with me, roiling through my gut like pesky, intestinal gnats; not exactly painful but just galling and irritating enough to still sting in the quiet moments when I stop and take their measure: yes...they are still there.<br /><br />Yes, they still hurt.<br /><br />The words were part - just a very small part actually - of a conversation I had with an acquaintance, a dear friend of a very dear friend, I had met briefly a few times before. She is tall, <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">blonde</span> and pretty and works in independent film. She's thoughtful, interesting...cool.<br /><br />We ran into each other at a girls gathering and were chatting about her upcoming wedding (to a member of Canadian music royalty no less) and comparing notes on parenting. She has a one-year-old and is stepmother to a 10-year-old and a 20-year-old.<br /><br />She admitted with a grin that she was already thinking about a second child with her soon-to-be husband and I remarked that at least she had a few built-in babysitters. I didn't mention that <em>I</em> had been thinking about a second child for almost three years now, but I noticed and envied the ease and assurance with which she discussed her plans to add to her family.<br /><br />I always notice that in other women: I always envy that.<br /><br />And the conversation turned, as it so often does these days, to plastics and <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">phthalates</span> and chemicals and all this crap that has apparently crept into our children's food and toys and how it might be affecting them, particularly their future fertility.<br /><br />Another woman remarked on a documentary she had seen about the decline of fertility, particularly male fertility, and how the phenomenon was something we had all seen around us. I talked about <a href="http://slowdeathbyrubberduck.com/" target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">a book I was reading that deals with this very thing.</span></a><br /><br /><em>"Well, maybe it's not such a bad thing really,"</em> said the first woman, she of the one-year-old and the two step-children and the blithe plans for more. <em>"I mean, the earth can only handle so many children, it's probably just the earth's way of self-correcting and saying 'no more'."</em><br /><br />I didn't say anything: I didn't think I <em>could</em> say anything without bursting into tears, so I didn't say anything.<br /><br /><em>"I mean, at some point, something has to force people to really stop and look at why this is happening, about whether it's because we're overpopulating the earth, right?"</em><br /><br />Right.<br /><br />I think I may have just mumbled something or changed the subject, or at least someone did, and the conversation went on. I spent the rest of the evening <em>not thinking about what she said</em> while continuing to chat with her and thoroughly enjoying our conversation. The night ended when I sincerely wished her good weather for the upcoming wedding and headed for my car.<br /><br />It wasn't until the way home that I let myself replay the conversation; until I let the hurt and the indignation wash over me.<br /><br />I cried much of the way home actually, but more out of plain old frustration than any real anger, because I know her words were not meant to be hurtful. I'm quite certain, in fact, that she would have been mortified had I taken her aside and told her how I was feeling.<br /><br />She probably would have been mortified if I sought to confirm that any plans <em>she</em> had to stop and really look at the issue of overpopulation were meant to be executed <em>after</em> her partner had fathered his fourth child.<br /><br />She probably would have felt badly if I had gently pointed out that positively glowing with happiness and good fortune whilst that speculating that someone <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">else's</span> ailment might be the result of a necessary and perhaps even deserved Darwinian correction is, at the very least, staggeringly insensitive.<br /><br />I probably should have told her how I felt, but I didn't.<br /><br />Perhaps I would have if I had known that more than three weeks later her words would still be there, roiling around my gut, gnawing at me and making my eyes sting with tears when I watch <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2008/10/one.html" target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">my only child try and make a playmate out of our 12-year-old cat.</span></a><br /><br /><center>****************************************************** </center><br /><p>Do you live in the Toronto area? Do you know where one can purchase a Curious George balloon? If so please, please spill your secrets in the comment box - I have a dear friend who may have to <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">renege</span> on a serious promise to a toddler who's about to turn three. We can't have that, can we? Help!</p>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com42tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-70256975518871799052009-08-21T12:15:00.003-04:002009-08-21T16:23:41.270-04:00We Miss EddieSo...umm...yeah...this sucks.<br /><br /><br /><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5372176324830151586" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 300px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhd5hDI60j4o5Fw7OkUVqx7Os9qT8PkVFQrgCrNRTFnXWuF5A6ejb7DoTIq_Qy8Rizd6tV34e5dlDcQLSK-cBTV0EqOgHCz1p1e5SbLf5kAWsiiR_TpdlelDII78yVQwDduzjozoFQTtQXn/s400/cat.jpg" border="0" /><br /><div align="center"><em>"We Miss Eddie. Eddie (Edgar) is our small, tabby (black and grey with<br />white tummy) </em><em>cat who went missing when we moved into (our new address)<br />last week. If you have seen her, please call us!"</em></div><br /><div align="left">The poster's been up for more than three weeks now: no one's called us.</div><div align="left"><br /> </div><div align="left"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="left">I think it's pretty safe to say that Eddie isn't coming home. </div><div align="left"><br /> </div><div align="left"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="left">Despite the fact that these posters are up all over our new neighborhood. Despite the fact that Rob and I have spoken to countless new <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">neighbors</span> and ventured out separately many a night calling for her at the top of our lungs (and annoying said new neighbors). </div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="left"><br />Despite all these things, I think it's pretty safe to say Eddie isn't coming home: it's been exactly a month since she slipped out the back door three days after we moved in. <br /></br></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="left">She (yes she's a girl) is a scrappy cat and a mouser, so she might well be managing just fine. But what keeps me awake nights is the knowledge that she won't be fine at all once the cold <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">weather</span> hits. And despite the fact that I've babied her for the past nine years much <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">the</span> same way <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2008/01/detente.html"><span style="color:#000099;">I've babied her feline brother,</span></a> she's always been skittish and fearful of people: I'm almost certain she <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">would</span> never let any well-meaning cat lover take her in, no matter how much she needed it. </div><div align="left"><br />I feel awful and Rob feels awful. Graham did feel awful but cheered up considerably after I <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">marshaled</span> my considerable acting ability to convince <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">him</span> that Eddie had just gone to live with another, <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">perfectly</span> wonderful family. (Does that count as a lie? Probably. Do I care? Nope - he just lost his <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">Oma</span> for <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">chrissakes</span>). </div><div align="left"><br /> </div><div align="left"></div><div align="left">Sigh. <br /></br></div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"> </div><div align="left"></div><div align="left"></div><div align="left">In other, more cheerful cat news, it's been almost exactly a year since so many of you weighed in on <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2008/08/what-would-you-do.html"><span style="color:#000099;">the tough choice I made with regards to our other feline friend.</span> </a>I'm <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">happy</span> to report that Horace is still living healthily with his facial lesion: he ain't as pretty as he used to be but at least he's present and accounted for.</div>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com22tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-84340628197518629742009-08-18T22:02:00.005-04:002009-08-18T22:11:21.222-04:00Sweet Carolina<p>Graham is in love.</p><p>Graham is in love with a much older "woman" who every evening rules the playground just steps from our new front door. Her name is Carolina and I'd guess she's about 13 years old.</p><p>Carolina is tall and beautiful with long, dark hair. She travels with a fawning entourage of younger girls who are noticeably less confident than she and quick to conform when she rolls her lovely eyes and tells them they're being <em>"so immature!"</em></p><p>Graham noticed Carolina the very first time we visited the playground and he's remained in her thrall ever since.</p><p><em>"There she is Mommy! There's the girl! I'm gonna go play with her!"</em> he shouts gleefully. Ever the picture of blissful optimism, he generally runs headlong in her direction only to be <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">summarily</span> dismissed.</p><p><em>"I think she's a little old for you to play with Graham,"</em> I cautioned him a few nights ago, after she once again rebuffed his enthusiastic invitation to join him on the slide with a giggle and a bemused pat on the head.</p><p><em>"But she has pretty long hair, Mommy,"</em> Graham countered. <em>"I have to play with her. I JUST have to."</em></p><p>And so he tried - all night that night and all night again tonight when, upon arrival at the playground Graham pushed his way into her gaggle of <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">pre</span>-teen admirers and announced, <em>"Hi there! You might remember me from last week at the playground."</em></p><p>I don't believe Carolina did.</p><p>No, she just smiled weakly and turned back to the task at hand: impressing her friends with her brand new cell phone.</p><p>Graham was undeterred and determinedly stepped into the circle again.</p><p><em>"Well, gee, that phone sure looks like it's got everything except the kitchen sink!"</em></p><p>Yes, he actually said that.</p><p>And this time he actually got some genuine laughs and <em>oohs </em>and <em><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">ahhs</span></em> from the girls before they moved on.</p>I can hardly bear to watch the way Graham puts himself out there these days, the way he cheerfully wears his tender heart on chubby sleeve. <p>I just watch with a strange mixture of apprehension and admiration, scarcely believing this is the same boy who only a year ago inspired me to <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2008/04/shy-boy-my-boy.html" target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">worrying about his extreme shyness. </span></a><p></p>And it's funny; while I am thrilled that Graham seems to have well and truly outgrown his shyness, I never imagined that his new-found fearlessness would somehow terrify me in a way that his introversion never did.Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com24tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-58829178453970740172009-08-14T08:15:00.011-04:002009-08-14T16:33:05.763-04:00SheonaWhen I hit my late 20s about 10 years ago, I figured I was pretty much "full up" as far as friends were concerned.<br /><br />I was lucky enough to be surrounded by a ton of interesting people who I had known since practically forever and with whom I barely had time to keep up friendships. I was busy, really busy, and I just didn't have the time nor the inclination to invest in a brand new friendship.<br /><br />And then I met her.<br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3MUMzQGPady6yGcQ0M_Zug4x3sbvJ-ixWiGTPJdPmjKE4cLEtsCY34x4hLoHuNNdB8qJLnDKjegcYmB0I48GrLG04zansgA9pfhlpDaWxLQB8dimbdGFjXKJDU2ZFDl-CnSfHR9UYyjs-/s1600-h/DSC_0115.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5365915425739864962" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 268px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg3MUMzQGPady6yGcQ0M_Zug4x3sbvJ-ixWiGTPJdPmjKE4cLEtsCY34x4hLoHuNNdB8qJLnDKjegcYmB0I48GrLG04zansgA9pfhlpDaWxLQB8dimbdGFjXKJDU2ZFDl-CnSfHR9UYyjs-/s400/DSC_0115.jpg" border="0" /></a><br />It was at a keg party of all places. An affair to which Rob - my then newish boyfriend - dragged me. We were surprised to arrive and find a house overflowing with hundreds of debacherous teenagers and when he got lost in the crowd I gravitated towards a woman closer to my own age who seemed similarly bemused at the attention we attracted from boys a decade our junior.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div>Sheona was a colleague of Rob's - a set script supervisor - and after a few drinks we let our inner cougars roar and formed a bond that I have come to cherish as one of the most important in my life.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div>Here's the thing about friends you meet later in life: they love you for the person you are, not the person you were. There is no comforting common history and no sense of obligation. There is simply chemistry and a sense that no matter how busy you are, you must fit this person into your life because they were sent to make your life better...to make you better.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div>And so Sheona was. And has.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div>Sheona has inspired me to dream and to dream big. She is a mother. She is a partner. She is a maker of <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2008/12/capturing-short-life.html" target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">beautiful, important films that celebrate life and loss</span></a>. When I spend time with her I come away invigorated, renewed, filled with the sense of my own strength and possibility.<br /><br />Sheona helped me through endless rewrites of <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2008/03/for-your-viewing-pleasure.html" target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">my film</span> </a>script and sat proudly through its premiere. She celebrated with me when I married, mourned when I learned I might never have a child and celebrated again when Graham made his debut.<br /><br /><a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2007/09/big-boys-dont-nap.html" target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">Her daughter's birthday party</span></a> was the first one Graham ever attended and when I read <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2009/03/henny.html" target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">the eulogy at my mother-in-law's wake</span></a> it was her face in the crowd that steadied me and gave me the strength to continue. </div><div></div><br />Sheona moved 3,000 miles away from me last week and I don't know what I'm going to do without her.<br /><br /><div></div><div>She has been my rock these past several months. I have literally cried on her shoulder and she has fortified me with her wise words and the gentle, pragmatic way she has of looking at the world.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div>She and <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2007/08/another-one-bites-dust.html" target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">her actor partner</span></a> are off for greener pastures on another coast and as much as I know we will always be friends, I am still bereft over the distance that geography will inevitably create between us.<br /><br />Godspeed Sheona.<br /><br /></div><div></div><div>Thank you for being my friend and for making my life better. Thank you for teaching me that one's life can never be too full to accommodate a kindred spirit.</div><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiXKwc7sJ5LCEHdFrfcnZzHXcM2BwaQDRViUnYtJ606YDWUvSV8ATej26q-KwYiI8JvqrToXsPsD5bvf45eC8Jd6_jfqfluoL7jZZCtfNUm91eloOM9x9EaqElQbRHQ0O7ycklSV2BiCH7x/s1600-h/P1000049.JPG"></a><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEgM3aCQx12rQpF1_B2bDmvQ9q_kAvd1we6ieJg_JUVQYRLWWjbzr0HmsidXXkFnO_194qtDth35ONv33ZThVvvR6hKk5TbyULpyRJQRfxTeOaCcebodQvq0JhVPnXvagam9mJbajRymiU/s1600-h/DSC_0119.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5365916122488334050" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 268px; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEgM3aCQx12rQpF1_B2bDmvQ9q_kAvd1we6ieJg_JUVQYRLWWjbzr0HmsidXXkFnO_194qtDth35ONv33ZThVvvR6hKk5TbyULpyRJQRfxTeOaCcebodQvq0JhVPnXvagam9mJbajRymiU/s400/DSC_0119.jpg" border="0" /></a> </div>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com20tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-16202447474527274012009-08-13T08:00:00.001-04:002009-08-13T10:32:23.308-04:00I'm working it!<p>It's not that I've dropped off the face of the earth.</p><p>It's just that I'm swamped over here. </p><p>So swamped, in fact, that I<em> barely</em> had time to write <a href="http://www.workitmom.com/bloggers/problemsolved/2009/08/12/how-to-make-your-life-less-hectic/ "target="_blank"><span style="color:#000099;">this post for <em>Work It Mom</em></span></a> about how busy, working moms can maximize their time.</p><p><a href="http://www.workitmom.com/bloggers/problemsolved/2009/08/12/how-to-make-your-life-less-hectic/" target="_blank" ><span style="color:#000099;">Check it out!</span></a></p>Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-54360168622507957272009-08-07T08:09:00.009-04:002009-08-07T10:40:08.204-04:00This just in: Don Mills not dead! Sinful Love lives!Back when I wrote <a href="http://donmillsdiva.blogspot.com/2007/08/on-don-mills-and-diva-dom_15.html"><span target="_blank" style="color:#000099;">my very first post here at Don Mills Diva</span></a>, I pointed out how ironic it is that Rob and I made our home in Don Mills.<br /><br />It<em> is</em> ironic because back in 1985 Rob was the lead singer in Sinful Love, a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Ramones</span>-style band that had a local hit song and video - <em>Don Mills is Dead</em> - which points out, in no uncertain terms, that our chosen neighborhood is lame.<br /><br />So last night, as I searched YouTube to see if anyone had posted video of me reading at the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">BlogHer</span> Community keynote (vanity, thy name is DMD), I realized that someone had posted a video of <em>Don Mills is Dead.</em><br /><br />The video and song below were written, directed and produced by Rob and his <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">band mates</span> in 1985 when the technology we take for granted today was years away from even existing. It achieved regular rotation on <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">MuchMusic</span> (Canada's MTV) and garnered Sinful Love a cult following in Toronto.<br /><br />Rob was 18 years old.<br /><br />Sure, his haircut leaves something to be desired. But you know what?<br /><br />I couldn't be more proud.<br /><br /><center><br /><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/cY7UEPufl7U&hl=" width="425" height="344" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" fs="1&rel="></embed><br /><br /></center>(And also, the woman who opens the door and shakes a frying pan at the band? That's my late mother- in-law. Secretly, I think she was proud too)Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.com21