tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post7226123665239599119..comments2024-01-30T12:13:22.632-05:00Comments on Don Mills Diva: On preferring sticks and stonesDon Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-12361533932522795002009-08-28T11:46:49.505-04:002009-08-28T11:46:49.505-04:00The things people say... people who haven't be...The things people say... people who haven't been touched by fertility issues... So many people don't really intend to hurt others with their curious questions or offhanded comments. But words do hurt. If only everyone realized that.<br /><br />I'm sorry you had to hear them and are still dealing with them.caramamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02327695885346537321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-46423398991374905632009-08-28T10:08:59.561-04:002009-08-28T10:08:59.561-04:00Kelly, Kelly, you KNOW you've got a kindred sp...Kelly, Kelly, you KNOW you've got a kindred spirit here. <br /><br />Staggering insensitivy lurks even within the confines of a family sometimes. Unfortunately. I recently actually DID say something about someone's insensitivity on this topic that made someone feel like a total dipshit. I felt better about it though, because they should feel it. I'm so nice that way. <br /><br />Hugs to you sweetie...Karen MEGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10834425321020756655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-6123876128173127712009-08-26T18:40:18.300-04:002009-08-26T18:40:18.300-04:00ouch.
It's amazing how thoughtless little blur...ouch.<br />It's amazing how thoughtless little blurbs from people's mouths can damage us and latch their spiked talons into our very being.<br /><br />I'm so sorry, K.<br /><br />hugs.<br /><br />No clue about a CG balloon. sorryRachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03395575647647856801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-42213822719241570232009-08-26T15:09:55.579-04:002009-08-26T15:09:55.579-04:00I've been reading lots of environmental things...I've been reading lots of environmental things recently and I usually get irritated by the flip way people say some of us are overpopulating the earth by having one or more kids. I have to admit, this is the first mention I've read about this being a way the earth is course-correcting. I find it odd that someone who plans to add to a family with three kids would make such comments. Very odd. I'm sorry that it hurt you. Sometimes we just don't think before we speak...Pregnantly Plumphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16520084082888706200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-71686458740155517392009-08-26T13:50:10.886-04:002009-08-26T13:50:10.886-04:00Uhm ouch! Majorly insensitive, huh? I hope that yo...Uhm ouch! Majorly insensitive, huh? I hope that you can get these words out of your mind soon.<br /><br />I hope that writing them down helped a bit...and I also hope you know that just because this is her opinion doesn't mean that it has to be yours.<br /><br />Hang in there.AutoSysGenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01182101665968215991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-68410331990352445172009-08-26T12:45:19.864-04:002009-08-26T12:45:19.864-04:00Delurking to sympathize. Three years of trying to ...Delurking to sympathize. Three years of trying to conceive my daughter meant having to suffer through numerous insensitive comments from people, including one woman who told me that if I was having so much trouble getting pregnant then maybe I wasn't meant to be a mother. During the deepest darkest moments of postpartum depression her words haunted me more than anything else. Many people don't realize how hurtful or impactful their words are. It's a shame really because they probably don't even realize it. <br /><br />p.s. I grew up in Don Mills. I'm a Lawrence and Leslie girl :)Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12956355582644290894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-74545694510207309792009-08-26T09:23:57.541-04:002009-08-26T09:23:57.541-04:00Echoing much of what's been said above. I'...Echoing much of what's been said above. I'm so sorry her words are hurtful and think the theory of population self-correction via BPA and the like is ridiculous. Ridiculous.<br /><br />Maybe she'll read this post . . .mephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03074153090546740903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-23289096752566561892009-08-26T07:51:45.091-04:002009-08-26T07:51:45.091-04:00perhaps you should have suggested she do 'her ...perhaps you should have suggested she do 'her part' in saving the world by not letting her husband help bring a fourth child into it.<br /><br />sigh<br /><br />People really can be thoughtful and insensitive.ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-17867244527894736412009-08-25T23:41:42.224-04:002009-08-25T23:41:42.224-04:00She sounds like a ridiculous person. I'm so so...She sounds like a ridiculous person. I'm so sorry.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14258405168792203613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-43240776761087289162009-08-25T23:12:17.497-04:002009-08-25T23:12:17.497-04:00i think that was an absurd thing to say, esp given...i think that was an absurd thing to say, esp given her plans for more kidsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-1922263812584435532009-08-25T22:14:08.426-04:002009-08-25T22:14:08.426-04:00They all said what I'm thinking. I'm sure ...They all said what I'm thinking. I'm sure she didn't realize how it would feel to be part of her Darwinian theory, but it still was a bit harsh. <br /><br />You know that you have all of my hopes for your family to grow. Even though it's a gorgeous family, just as it is. <br /><br />Love you.<br /><br />Here's a link for an online balloon order. There are tons of them for Curious George....<br /><br /><br />http://www.balloonmaniacs.com/index.php?main_page=index&cPath=1_226&zenid=2272c5c0ccbb8a6b16df793119e1b895tracey.becker1@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09606831315390042198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-14439892063666527512009-08-25T21:55:00.220-04:002009-08-25T21:55:00.220-04:00I am a pretty bitter person and somehow I've b...I am a pretty bitter person and somehow I've been able to look at the reproductively lucky and think just that 'how lucky for them that they don't know any better'<br />it is not fair K. I am so sorry.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-54318441364551453562009-08-25T21:18:46.041-04:002009-08-25T21:18:46.041-04:00People just don't think before they speak do t...People just don't think before they speak do they? Infertility stinks. I know how painful that is.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01979925607834752536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-86442793651653087662009-08-25T18:30:23.450-04:002009-08-25T18:30:23.450-04:00I think you're right, I believe she would have...I think you're right, I believe she would have been mortified if she had known how hurt you were by her blithe comments. I am so very sorry it was so painful for you. <br />Life is so very unfair, where is my magic wand when I need it?!Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03298099759296161682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-58060522392755039352009-08-25T16:54:06.596-04:002009-08-25T16:54:06.596-04:00It took us 4 years to have our son and plenty of t...It took us 4 years to have our son and plenty of time through the wringer trying various procedures and drugs. I am still amazed to this day at how flippant and so self assured some people sound about when and how many children they will have. It must be nice is all I can think..<br /><br />I'm sorry her insensitivity hurt you.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07836804230239409478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-88600488404147959962009-08-25T14:25:07.154-04:002009-08-25T14:25:07.154-04:00Such a heart-wrenching post. I too, believe she di...Such a heart-wrenching post. I too, believe she didn't really MEAN anything by it... maybe she was just being flippant. And understandably, because of your situation, you are ultra-sensitive to comments like these. <br /><br />After a miscarriage, I remember seeing a young pregnant person on the street, smoking. And I was so angry, for I had lost mine, and she didn't even care about hers. I remember passing by pregnant people in the mall, who looked way older than me, thinking why could they get (and stay) pregnant and I couldn't?<br /><br />Anyway... enough about me. I'm surprised you don't write about this more. You're a fabulous writer and I think you could help a lot of women out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-22409279643398543772009-08-25T11:57:22.858-04:002009-08-25T11:57:22.858-04:00Totally insensitive, and stupid really. I would ha...Totally insensitive, and stupid really. I would have suggested she do her part by putting the kibosh on those second baby plans. Moron. <br /><br />As for the balloon, try It's My Party (haven't read the comments above, so you may have heard that already).karengreenershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488069680575426742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-56391948975615434542009-08-25T11:08:24.315-04:002009-08-25T11:08:24.315-04:00wow....that is crazy. I'm sure I would have be...wow....that is crazy. I'm sure I would have been dumbfounded thinking "did she really just say that?"<br /><br />People really are so insensitive sometimes...probably without even realizing it. I'm sorry you had to endure that. <br /><br />Good luck finding the CG balloon!Kelli @ writing the waveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06529137162073950732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-40332129646725410172009-08-25T10:25:17.525-04:002009-08-25T10:25:17.525-04:00I remember something like this happening to me. I ...I remember something like this happening to me. I held it together until I got to my car. A half hour later, I was almost howling with grief as I walked in my front door. <br /><br />I'm sorry for her inadvertent insensitivity. <br /><br />Off topic: I'm totally dying to know who this girl is marrying. :)Shaunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13866502742081896301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-73040841128496406212009-08-25T09:34:07.083-04:002009-08-25T09:34:07.083-04:00I am constantly saying things that as soon as the ...I am constantly saying things that as soon as the words are out of my mouth, I'm like what the eff was I thinking? And of course then I agonize about their potential impact. I am positive she didn't mean her words to be hurtful. And if she did? Then you need to avoid that bitch like the plague. Hugs!CaraBeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04614627167922944626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-17941435245826844502009-08-25T05:33:34.523-04:002009-08-25T05:33:34.523-04:00People can get all tied up in their own situations...People can get all tied up in their own situations - but that sure is no excuse.<br /><br />HUGS.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08122365458052947125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-74036535522893383112009-08-25T00:33:09.726-04:002009-08-25T00:33:09.726-04:00I'm so sorry that she said that. At minimum it...I'm so sorry that she said that. At minimum it was phenomenally insensitive. Not everyone can just blink and end up pregnant. It's a good thing to keep in mind when you're out navigating the world.<br /><br />If nothing else, it's a little bit bizarre to argue for population control when you're reproducing at a rather alarming clip yourself. :/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-11199144750505070672009-08-24T23:26:18.918-04:002009-08-24T23:26:18.918-04:00I know you know she didn't mean to effect you ...I know you know she didn't mean to effect you in that way but of course that doesn't matter. What matters is that it did. Wish I could just 'rewind' the tape for you and make it go away...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01044279582701415786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-71179893405017348152009-08-24T23:23:49.129-04:002009-08-24T23:23:49.129-04:00Kelly, I'm feeling so much pain for you. I ca...Kelly, I'm feeling so much pain for you. I can't even imagine what you have gone through in these past three years.<br /><br />People carelessly toss out many things they don't mean to say, I hope you can 'toss out' this part of the conversation very soon.<br /><br />Best wishes.Anti-Supermomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13748550116367234098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-59487858645764461652009-08-24T22:36:34.506-04:002009-08-24T22:36:34.506-04:00I've probably been guilty for some of these of...I've probably been guilty for some of these off the cuff remarks myself. I should really shut up more.<br /><br />I remember making comments about my friends who had in vitro (before I ever had kids). Even when she gave birth to preemie twins all I could think was how she did it with no drugs. I had no clue.<br /><br />Sorry you're hurting. Infertility sucks.scarbie dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15067032043776994982noreply@blogger.com