tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post6810457132586957632..comments2024-01-30T12:13:22.632-05:00Comments on Don Mills Diva: Privacy? Schmivacy.Don Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.comBlogger92125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-35192117438835211332009-07-30T12:59:20.233-04:002009-07-30T12:59:20.233-04:00I very recently stopped referring to my children a...I very recently stopped referring to my children as beans...not because I was affraid someone would find me, i mean come on i am a d-list blogger at best but b/c I thought it was cute...gawd i have a lot to learn!<br /><br />Loved your post visiting from the keynote listAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13755834803574964576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-62861199154437087152009-07-29T17:58:32.411-04:002009-07-29T17:58:32.411-04:00Great post. Here via keynote list.Great post. Here via keynote list.Al_Palhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10260615221471924302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-20870837981822000202009-07-28T17:45:14.559-04:002009-07-28T17:45:14.559-04:00I wrote under a pseudo-pseudonym for the first six...I wrote under a pseudo-pseudonym for the first six months or so on my blog. I wasn't sure how I felt about revealing myself. Now I believe that was folly. I do write about my family. I do write about my children (although I don't use their names, for a whole variety of reasons).<br /><br />I appreciate that you think of your blog as a love letter to your son. I'm not sure my children, who are older, would consider the things I write about them to be love letters, but in a way they are.<br /><br />My point is that writers through the ages have mined their families, friends, acquaintances and eavesdropping for nuggets of gold to include in their writing. That's what we do as writers. We look for the diamonds in the rough, and through our work and our words, we polish them into gemstones. That's what writers do.Susan Bearmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14991968368214219371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-17897156015397979442008-08-05T12:45:00.000-04:002008-08-05T12:45:00.000-04:00I have always felt the same way. The important th...I have always felt the same way. The important thing is knowing where to draw the line, and clearly you do.<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/><BR/>JenJennifer @ Fruit of My Handshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11479983078312955832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-83468608200836465282008-08-03T19:06:00.000-04:002008-08-03T19:06:00.000-04:00You're awesome. And you're right.You're awesome an...You're awesome. And you're right.<BR/><BR/>You're awesome and you're right.Maggie, Dammithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16471019955310537571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-86984838114099241782008-07-31T17:59:00.000-04:002008-07-31T17:59:00.000-04:00Exactly, I feel the same way.Exactly, I feel the same way.Whithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14818211552756821661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-79069677482236815072008-07-30T16:36:00.000-04:002008-07-30T16:36:00.000-04:00From one Kelli/y to another, I agree with you. It ...From one Kelli/y to another, I agree with you. It seems to surprise some people when I tell them I use my kids' names and post their pictures, but you know...I'm not going to live in fear. Of course, I'm not going to post our weekly schedule, home address, and phone number either. But really, it is more likely for someone to follow you home from the grocery store than to track you down from your blog. But am I going to stop going to the grocery store? I really don't think that would go over well. The kids have to eat! haha :)Kelli @ writing the waveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06529137162073950732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-92156795157861224142008-07-29T13:18:00.000-04:002008-07-29T13:18:00.000-04:00Cool. I tend not to worry too... And then I wonder...Cool. <BR/><BR/>I tend not to worry too... And then I wonder if I'm being naive.<BR/><BR/>Oh well. I guess I'll just plug away and see what happens.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-85095840683977056092008-07-28T16:05:00.000-04:002008-07-28T16:05:00.000-04:00I went through a period where I had read some thin...I went through a period where I had read some things that made me a little paranoid about "exposing" me and my family on the internet and then I just "let it go." <BR/><BR/>I agree with everything you said and as my husband always says, if someone really wants to find you they will find a way not matter what.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01044279582701415786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-43335001937485150602008-07-27T14:28:00.000-04:002008-07-27T14:28:00.000-04:00I'm so with you. Did you catch the ridiculous Kath...I'm so with you. Did you catch the ridiculous Kathie Lee interview with Dooce on the Today show? People who think we're all "pimping out our kids" have no idea how the Internet works, or what "mommy" blogging is all about.Kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03792735154830422231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-91222665996729087202008-07-26T19:41:00.000-04:002008-07-26T19:41:00.000-04:00I think it's a personal choice and whatever makes ...I think it's a personal choice and whatever makes you comfortable is what you should do; however, I don't get anyone giving someone a hard time over their choices. That's just crazy! It's their blog - if you don't like it, don't read it..ya know??<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I use real names and real photos of my real family. However, I have also used fake names and obviously fake names to make the story funnier.<BR/><BR/>I talk about work, but I don't say where I work. I talk about people from work but I don't mention their real names and I never tell where I live - although I'm sure someone could look it up rather easily, should they so choose. But they don't need to read my blog to be able to do that...<BR/><BR/>Great post - thought provoking.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-66756435440453917542008-07-26T14:47:00.000-04:002008-07-26T14:47:00.000-04:00LOL to Maria's comment!I love your perspective, Ke...LOL to Maria's comment!<BR/><BR/>I love your perspective, Kelly. <BR/><BR/>Me, I'm all over the place... consistently inconsistent with my anxiety over it all, or just fack it attitude/ plain laziness.Karen MEGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10834425321020756655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-10349096377872395642008-07-26T02:29:00.000-04:002008-07-26T02:29:00.000-04:00Good for you! That is a whole can of worms, isn't...Good for you! That is a whole can of worms, isn't it? I do use our first names, but not our last, which is very distinctive, and I don't give out a lot of specific details, but that's about the only nod to privacy I give. I just don't see why someone would go to all that bother. I'm just an average Mom. If someone were to stalk me, they'd probably die of boredom!AdriansCrazyLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04463022076036044242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-33254909797993493392008-07-26T00:33:00.000-04:002008-07-26T00:33:00.000-04:00excellent pointsexcellent pointspainted maypolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06446625015003854710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-21218990586666899572008-07-25T23:53:00.000-04:002008-07-25T23:53:00.000-04:00So agree! Amen!So agree! Amen!Indyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05544675666827041726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-44925733027179699632008-07-25T23:10:00.000-04:002008-07-25T23:10:00.000-04:00I confess that for quite a while I used fake nickn...I confess that for quite a while I used fake nicknames for my kids. After a while, it just got to be a hassle. I have out of state family that read my blogs, and the nicknames were confusing to them. I finally gave up and started using our real first names. I feel so free. The other few readers that I do have, live across the country. I say to each his own, however I would not insult anyone who chooses to remain anonymous. That is a personal choice that everyone must make for themselves.Susiewearsthepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02416191781443415275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-91688753391510319482008-07-25T21:56:00.000-04:002008-07-25T21:56:00.000-04:00I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Actual...I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Actually I may print your post out and tape it to my laptop.<BR/><BR/>Sigh. I wish I was more radical.<BR/><BR/>Oakville is not far, let me know if you ever get together with other TO bloggers for drinks...or do we have to go to San Fran?Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15592530066607069238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-87192763204523236702008-07-25T21:36:00.000-04:002008-07-25T21:36:00.000-04:00I don't reveal my last name, my monkey's names or ...I don't reveal my last name, my monkey's names or post their faces on my blog. But, that's because I have a little anxiety issue.... I like to keep my anxiety at bay. When I used to post pics of the monkey, friends and family would be, like, "doesn't that make you nervous?", etc.. And, their questions pressed my anxiety buttons. So, I refrain. To avoid anxiety. BUT, I do reveal a lot of my own very personal thoughts. I struggle with how much I want to expose of MYSELF. But, lately, I don't care. Good writing -- as you so rightly say here -- is all about that. PLUS, I really feel that we should ALL be so open and authentic. What you see is what you get. What a wonderful practice that is in life and in writing....Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07516203764767040649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-11159564696148696332008-07-25T17:22:00.000-04:002008-07-25T17:22:00.000-04:00What a great post, Kelly. Makes a lot of sense too...What a great post, Kelly. Makes a lot of sense too. <BR/><BR/>P.S. With a writer as a Mom and a sound recordist & mixer for TV & feature films for a Dad, Graham is one lucky boy to have such cool parents!! ;)<BR/><BR/>By the way, I'm in Don Mills every time I'm in TO. My aunt and uncle live near the water tower & those two 'interesting', funky, 'modern' homes. Not sure if you know the two houses I'm talking about, but you can't miss them! They stick right out amongst the rest of the homes there.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-32430727459486588632008-07-25T14:39:00.000-04:002008-07-25T14:39:00.000-04:00Excellent points. I always feel like there is som...Excellent points. I always feel like there is something wrong with me because I am not as concerned with privacy as I *should* be. I post pictures of my child, most people who comment know my full and real name because I reply from my real email and sometimes I reveal deeply personal things. I've got it under check though and I'm more worried about my next door neighbor than I am about Internetland.<BR/><BR/>I compare having a blog to writing an autobiography. Not that we are ALL writers (goodness knows I'm not), but I'm not sure why it's okay to do one and not the other.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-78604643046531750502008-07-25T14:09:00.000-04:002008-07-25T14:09:00.000-04:00This is an issue I struggle with. I read this post...This is an issue I struggle with. I read this post when you posted it and decided that rather than making a comment, I would write about too and link back to you. And here I am, making a comment anyway. :)<BR/><BR/>There's one thing I have no questions about: I completely agree that there's no difference between putting yourself in the public eye in printed media, or on the internet. <BR/><BR/>The rest of it deserves a post of its own. :)Vered https://www.blogger.com/profile/09453358346751699999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-11991593665764324202008-07-25T13:55:00.000-04:002008-07-25T13:55:00.000-04:00well said.i use a moniker that is more or less a p...well said.<BR/><BR/>i use a moniker that is more or less a pseudonym, and i don't name family names, but...i sometimes wonder why.<BR/><BR/>on the other hand, no one in my other life (work, that is) knows about my blog...Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-23977028002510830392008-07-25T13:15:00.000-04:002008-07-25T13:15:00.000-04:00As I told you at the time, that privacy debate pan...As I told you at the time, that privacy debate panel was a little freaky. I think if people are so concerned about their privacy (which is entirely their right) they should not publish a blog. But that's just me.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14586323120994967027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-2207711204376852712008-07-25T12:31:00.000-04:002008-07-25T12:31:00.000-04:00I'm not nearly the writer you are, but I feel the ...I'm not nearly the writer you are, but I feel the same way. I thought about using pseudonyms, but it's just so much easier to remember the truth!Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12051174636017409935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-85781722106770783152008-07-25T11:12:00.000-04:002008-07-25T11:12:00.000-04:00I agree with you completely. But I still use pseud...I agree with you completely. But I still use pseudonyms for my husband and kids. My husband is concerned about it, and I respect that, for one. For another, I would never want anything I wrote to have a negative effect on my husband's career and using a pseudonym decreases the chances of that happening, in my book. It also lets my children have the freedom to form their own identities later in life, without having anything I wrote about them hanging over them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com