tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post4933549234658958604..comments2024-01-30T12:13:22.632-05:00Comments on Don Mills Diva: Losing the battleDon Mills Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03733674458423525738noreply@blogger.comBlogger68125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-90161611649482084822008-04-22T11:09:00.000-04:002008-04-22T11:09:00.000-04:00I am very lucky that my kids haven't developed thi...I am very lucky that my kids haven't developed this type of tantrum yet. YET being the key word here.LunaNikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13981677669711596784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-46044044099605547832008-04-12T16:41:00.000-04:002008-04-12T16:41:00.000-04:00We have the same problem here too. Mostly my two y...We have the same problem here too. Mostly my two year old, but the five year old likes to throw one now and then for old times sake. Our strategy is to get up before them and be ready to go. Then get them up so we can devote all our attention to them and we aren't short of temper because we're trying to get us and them ready at the same time.Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05032883451591260574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-28479464827594016452008-04-11T19:56:00.000-04:002008-04-11T19:56:00.000-04:00I'm still here...and living my youth all over agai...I'm still here...and living my youth all over again! Keep on keeping on. xoxo, Mental MamaMental P Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05957544840704376193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-59289479476517973042008-04-11T13:38:00.000-04:002008-04-11T13:38:00.000-04:00Yes. Why does EVERYTHING have to be so hard? And...Yes. Why does EVERYTHING have to be so hard? And now the baby is screaming at me too. Good times.Run ANChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06088821030860597465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-18928262537415731052008-04-11T08:04:00.000-04:002008-04-11T08:04:00.000-04:00I totally go through phases like that, and I step ...I totally go through phases like that, and I step away for a bit and come back refreshed, when I have something I feel is important to say.<BR/><BR/>Don't worry about it, this whole business of blogging is totally cyclical, and if you didn't feel the need to prioritize your beautiful family ahead of virtual friends, then there'd be something wrong happening.<BR/><BR/>Hope to see you Saturday night! <BR/><BR/>(P.S. I'd love to be added to your blogroll!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-81318737499017385902008-04-10T20:20:00.000-04:002008-04-10T20:20:00.000-04:00Wow that sounds rough. Haven't been there yet but ...Wow that sounds rough. Haven't been there yet but what about if you put his socks and shoes on in the car? Change up the routine a little so he doesn't get realize you're leaving until you're already out the door?Skiploveyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12108678447797063372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-8857202985180880122008-04-10T19:16:00.000-04:002008-04-10T19:16:00.000-04:00I remember my son used to cry when I dropped him o...I remember my son used to cry when I dropped him off at the daycare centre, and then cry when I picked him up at the daycare centre. I remember how disheartening it was for me. In retrospect, I think he was just going through a phase of automatically resisting change. It lasted a couple of months, and then disappeared as mysteriously as it had appeared. (This seems to be true of pretty much all the things they do at that age...the things you hate AND the things you love...they're all transient.)<BR/><BR/>How is Graham when you pick him up?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-70457956381682400492008-04-10T14:38:00.000-04:002008-04-10T14:38:00.000-04:00So I couldn't leave this one alone. It might just ...So I couldn't leave this one alone. <BR/><BR/>It might just be terrible twos, but that's associated with their growing sense of self - so how about using a visual schedule to show him what's coming next and to encourage him to do some of the work himself.<BR/><BR/>CC did a post on this...http://ifonlyihadsuperpowers.blogspot.com/2008/04/wordles-wednesday-visual-schedules.html<BR/><BR/>When Ellie tantrums, I sometimes leave her on the floor to shout and scream while I've go and load the car or do some other job out of sight. I leave her saying, 'Okay angel, you have a lie down there and tell me all about it, while I go and have some more fun over here.' <BR/><BR/>She usually appears after a shortwhile - quite cheerful again. This is also how the childminder deals with tantrums. You could check if you and your sitter are consistent.<BR/><BR/>It's okay for her to go from 1-60mph in a second, but it's not for me. I keep talking, verbalising the difficulties and what I imagine she's thinking. It keeps me calm and keeps panic/confusion at bay.<BR/><BR/>But then, what do I know? Maybe she's really going to hit her stride at 3 - then what will I do??<BR/><BR/>Sorry to go on and on.Sasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13697836741843809088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-54600331078542547992008-04-10T14:37:00.000-04:002008-04-10T14:37:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Sasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13697836741843809088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-82977173891115126232008-04-10T14:33:00.000-04:002008-04-10T14:33:00.000-04:00there are always guilty moments. I know I have yel...there are always guilty moments. I know I have yelled at my baby and gosh she is only 6 months. I espesally felt bad when she was being crancky and non stop screaming...then I found otu she had an ear infection....yea...I felt bad :(Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07843200092492177826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-75157392554587514992008-04-10T13:11:00.000-04:002008-04-10T13:11:00.000-04:00I remember those days...believe it or not, I kinda...I remember those days...believe it or not, I kinda miss them.Mental P Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05957544840704376193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-7892528722766793512008-04-10T13:07:00.000-04:002008-04-10T13:07:00.000-04:00I'm right there with you. Ladybug, 19 months old,...I'm right there with you. Ladybug, 19 months old, fights with all the strength in her little body to avoid getting in the car. She arches her back so I can't fasten the belts and tries to slide off the seat, all while screaming, crying, hitting, kicking and pinching. She is a little she-devil. It is driving me to drink, I tell you.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14997605831348833911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-28055108708972446312008-04-10T12:16:00.000-04:002008-04-10T12:16:00.000-04:00My youngest just turned 3 and has been protesting ...My youngest just turned 3 and has been protesting "school" (daycare) very loudly in the mornings.<BR/><BR/>I'll be honest with you...I bribe her with something yummy like cereal in a little bag or even a couple of jelly beans.<BR/><BR/>My name is Jamie and I bribe my children!BlondeMomBlog (Jamie)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11678207937709971411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-87957935117087937692008-04-10T12:12:00.000-04:002008-04-10T12:12:00.000-04:00Tantrums are a fact of life when you have young on...Tantrums are a fact of life when you have young ones. Getting out the door tantrums are the worst. <BR/><BR/>Al la Super Nanny, 2 minute warnings and a running commentary on what is going on next, where you are going, what you expect really work. Especially on a 2 or almost 2 year old. At this age thay are struggling for control and understanding of their world. Gone are the days that you can just grab them and put them in a car, peacefully. By keeping him in the loop ("In 2 minutes we are going to put on your shoes", etc.) it allows him to feel some control over his morning. <BR/>I'm not sure if you wanted advice or not. If you did, I hope this helps.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05199941051691469813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-69684100271849249622008-04-10T10:51:00.000-04:002008-04-10T10:51:00.000-04:00He's just showing you that he wants to be boss ;) ...He's just showing you that he wants to be boss ;) Gotta give the little guy credit for speaking up for himself LOL<BR/><BR/>BIG HUGS - he will eventually stopKellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05675228342893888196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-77035037388741087012008-04-10T10:34:00.000-04:002008-04-10T10:34:00.000-04:00I'd say if it's the shoes and socks that start the...I'd say if it's the shoes and socks that start the process - I'd be picking him up, putting him in the car, and putting the shoes and socks on at the babysitters. You know, that's just me, I'd throw a wrench in the little routien and see what happens.Daynahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00378574876984217892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-59468416228860689652008-04-10T10:04:00.000-04:002008-04-10T10:04:00.000-04:00We went through it too, but it didn't really last ...We went through it too, but it didn't really last all that long. Once they realized there was no way around it, they seemed to give up on that game...and start something else instead.<BR/><BR/>Try not to take it personally. You know he loves his sitter, and that he's happy there! Keep that thought close. You are NOT a failure, he is just being a toddler.<BR/><BR/>Hugs - HeidiFamily Adventurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00093360285075029799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-35061277450670754492008-04-10T06:07:00.000-04:002008-04-10T06:07:00.000-04:00Your son is in the middle of the Terrible Twos but...Your son is in the middle of the Terrible Twos but I can assure you, this too shall pass. That's scant consolation when you're standing there with a screaming kid in front of you and a sock and shoe in one hand... I know, I've been there! The only advise I can give you is the same as what others have said: Don't give in, but don't beat yourself to a pulp in the process. Put enough clothes on him that he won't die from exposure outside the door and take the rest in a bag.Allmyckehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03618880904953965190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-46903008496669501782008-04-10T06:05:00.000-04:002008-04-10T06:05:00.000-04:00Sometimes, a few times a day!!!!These little peopl...Sometimes, a few times a day!!!!<BR/><BR/>These little people sure are mighty!!!<BR/><BR/>Hang in there!!!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08122365458052947125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-90839732985710065342008-04-10T02:36:00.000-04:002008-04-10T02:36:00.000-04:00What is it with footwear? I'm getting the same wit...What is it with footwear? I'm getting the same with Ellie whenever I try putting anything from tights to jeans over her feet.<BR/><BR/>Maybe it's not just about going out. It might be to do with their burgeoning independence and feeling powerless when someone else holds their feet.<BR/><BR/>How about getting him to put on his own shoes - wellingtons or crocs? (I don't like crocs, but I'm going to give them a try).Sasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13697836741843809088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-82845050336266048192008-04-10T02:32:00.000-04:002008-04-10T02:32:00.000-04:00Oh yeah, totally losing the battle daily. If it's ...Oh yeah, totally losing the battle daily. If it's not Twin A, it's Twin B. Or both.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07492761626352593047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-61210378089736313852008-04-10T00:46:00.000-04:002008-04-10T00:46:00.000-04:00Every. Day. Well, not every day, but close. Gett...Every. Day. Well, not every day, but close. Getting Little Monster into the car has become an issue here too. No issue with the shoes/socks/getting ready.. But We're having the back-arch, bloodcurdlingsurelyimustbeabusingmykid screams from the backseat. The whole time I'm telling him "you're going to LIKE it!" He's fine by the time we leave the driveway. I'm not. I'm a bad driver when I'm upset. I feel ya.Momma Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09696048453973147293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-30978449963500275352008-04-10T00:24:00.000-04:002008-04-10T00:24:00.000-04:00What? They throw tantrums? Huh? Why didn't people ...What? They throw tantrums? Huh? Why didn't people tell me this???? <BR/><BR/>Seriously, you are doing way better than those moms on Super Nanny--YIKES. <BR/><BR/>And hey, listen to that happy cooing. He's fine. He just tied you into knots. I'm with awesome mom--it is a toddler thing, heck, a kid thing. Just stay calm, trust yourself (you are a great mom!), and stay strong. <BR/><BR/>Listen to me trying to give advice. I have an 8th month old . . . what the heck do I know. <BR/><BR/>Good luck! Remind me of this when I blog about J's tantrums . . .Laskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12001998549713092381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-10467449790994329312008-04-10T00:16:00.000-04:002008-04-10T00:16:00.000-04:00Harry frequently has meltdowns before we go anywhe...Harry frequently has meltdowns before we go anywhere. I think it is a toddler thing.Awesome Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03523320907836876707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-454432385331536006.post-83213009793379563872008-04-09T23:55:00.000-04:002008-04-09T23:55:00.000-04:00OH girl, I hate to say it, but this is just the be...OH girl, I hate to say it, but this is just the beginning. Mine just turned 4 and I posted earlier today about our trials. God Bless us mothers, every one!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01044279582701415786noreply@blogger.com